My Journey to Creating My Destiny
“Above all, be the hero of your life, not a victim” – Unknown
Twenty years ago, towards the end of my pregnancy with my older daughter, I had an attack of facial paralysis due to the wrong dosage of medicines. I lost complete action of my muscles and nerves on one side of my face, and just as I lost vision in my one eye, I lost vision in my life. Prior to this I was an extrovert, highly driven, and an ambitious person. When this happened, I was devastated, and I created a world of loneliness and bitterness, I hated myself and everyone around me. Despite having a supporting and loving husband, and a beautiful baby in my life, I was stuck in my corner, with no confidence and low self-esteem. I was in a sinking boat, that was filled with self-pity, desperation, and hatred towards the world.
Just like a rainbow comes after a storm, a wonderful friend, who also became my mentor, came into my life with an abundance of color. She reached out to me, and helped me build my faith spiritually. She told me to speak words of power before the mirror saying, ‘I am healed and beautifully and wonderfully made, I am made in the image of God.’ I said things like, ‘my face is symmetrical, I have 20/20 vision, and I am getting better and better every day.’ At first there was a lot of resistance since I loathed looking at myself in the mirror. But none the less, I followed her instructions, and slowly started seeing results. And in a period of three months I got my 20/20 vision. My face started coming back into alignment in the span of two-three years by the grace of God, and the faith filled words that were coming out of my mouth.
Fast forward to 2010, I was now raising two daughters, still lacking in the confidence and self-esteem department. Life was like living on a race track, with housework, family, and full-time homeschooling the kids. Every day was the same. Wash, rinse, dry and repeat. Not having a passion or purpose in life. I was living life without a destination on my GPS. I had forgotten about taking care of myself. During this period, I realized that my children were watching, following, and learning from me 24/7. I also realized that I was living life as an ordinary woman, allowing negative emotions, thoughts, and my circumstances take the driver’s seat in my life.
I heard this quote
“Above all, be the hero of your life, not a victim.”
This hit me. This is not what God had planned for me, this is not my purpose. Just rolling in self pity and no self-esteem. As the first role model in my children’s life, I didn’t want them ending up like me! I decided to become a mentor for them and build my own legacy. This decision completely changed the course of my life. And that same day, I journaled, “Its time to kick up a notch, and become that extraordinary woman.’
One day I came across this quote, “The journey of a thousand miles begins with just one step,”-By Lao Tzu. This quote gave me the strength and hope that, just one single step of making a decision to change, a single step of doing something productive can lead me to become that extraordinary woman.
I heard someone say, “Its not your destination, its your journey you need to celebrate.” This got me to move and listen to an eight-minute motivational talk every day, over and over. These eight-minute talks, changed me and gave me; courage, clarity, confidence, purpose, new direction, and a new identity in my life. I found mentors, whose lives and success stories fascinated me. I explored and studied about brining change from the inside. I got trained under Jack Canfield, and did many courses and programs under my mentors, Dani Johnson, Terri Savelle Foy, and Puja Puneet.
Just as we add salt and pepper to add flavor, which make the dish extra tasty and special, I took time and effort to put some extra into my ordinary. Which led me to becoming the extraordinary women I always wanted to be. It was not an easy journey for me to get where I am. Even though I was raised by loving parents, I was surrounded by negativity my whole life. And I can tell you, that being positive and not giving up is hard. It is still hard, as I walk on this path that I have chosen.
I have fallen plenty times, the gravity of my past pulling me and smacking me hard to the ground. So, I can say that I have had my fair share of meeting failure. But, if thoughts of giving up ever come in my mind, I remember my decision. The decision of being a part of the two percenters, and I always look back because of the eyes that are watching me, to become their inspiration.
At first, after I decided to help women like me, I wanted to wait for my youngest to finish school, and then start my career journey. But few friends whom I have helped, and they have seen a change in their lives, told me to start now. To start making a change in other peoples lives so that they can be impacted and they can live their dreams with UNSHAKABLE CONFIDENCE. I took up the challenge, and told myself, “If not now, then when?” If I didn’t start now, my dreams to help women will be tucked safely in the backseat and might never see light again.
I’ll end this with the quote that really got me moving,
“The journey of a thousand miles begins with just one step,” -Lao Tzu.
Just as I took the first step, why don’t you do the same, and join me to start creating your DESTINY WITH UNSHAKEABLE CONFIDENCE